Rejection can knock your confidence and impact your self-esteem. Not only do you feel sad, but you can also experience a lack of energy. Ultimately, it can make you doubt yourself, your abilities and make you feel like you aren’t good enough. Plus, it can be doubly as hard to not take rejection personally if you work in a creative role, where your work, values and mission are intertwined.
Rejection is a real, literal pain
But more than this, rejection also triggers the same part of our brain that is activated when we experience physical pain, so even the smallest rejection can literally hurt. In fact, in this TED article, psychologist Guy Winch explains how this stems back to being hunter-gatherers, where the fear of being expelled from a tribe could greatly impact our chances of survival. It’s this that supposedly led to the development of an “early warning mechanism” that could alert us when we were at danger of being cast out – AKA rejection.
The tricky side of this is accepting that not everyone is going to like, or want to work with you. Which means that, often, rejection is a large pill that will need to be swallowed in order to move on. Easier said than done, right?